What habits does our heart and soul have?

17. 07. 2020
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There are often discussions about the differences between the common understanding of a word and the notion of the same word being understood by the soul. For example, a word habitus comes from Latin, where it means behavior habits, routine. Every person has a number of certain habits that bring to his life order. For example, a morning cup of coffee and watching news. Then check your emails. There were times when I was just taking coffee and watching the news - that was the "before e-mail" period. Email is a new addition to my decades old routine. Then I'll have a shower and walk into the office. So that's my normal day.

Habits bring order to life

We all have our usual procedures, which change a little over time, but routines - customs - mean anchors or locators for us. They keep the chaos that everybody is struggling with. Our habits are also reflected in our lifestyle:

,, I am a runner; He eats only organic food; I attend church every Sunday; I go for a walk every morning; I read every day after dinner; I take a nap every afternoon at 16:00; I start drinking every day at 17:00. "

Our bodily habits are for people around us as green or red at the traffic light. They must learn to maneuver them around our firmly anchored and carefully adjusted routines. Much of our body habits are a matter of choice and adaptation. We can change them, even if I bet that breaking some of the established habits will require great effort. Although eliminating habits such as drugs, gambling, alcohol, lying and cheating is something that one can hardly do alone, even these bad habits can be disposed of.

The most important habits of the heart

They all have one thing in common - they are mobile. They rule your world, yet they can be confused, altered or removed from your life if you wish. Conversely, whenever new can be added to the habit list. On the other hand Habitus Maximus refers to "the most important habits of your heart or soul". You do not consciously choose these habits, but they awaken in you due to circumstances or learned behavior. These are the main habits that, if you follow, will make you a congruent, integral human being. I could add "spiritually conscious" beings, but spirituality is the personal choice of each of us.

Habitus maximus are habits that express "who you really are". While bodily habits give your life order, your heart habits bring order to you as a human being. These are patterns of behavior, natural to your soul. They arise in childhood with discussions with adults or participation in various situations that cause the moment of identification or awakening. Let me show you each of these three options.

Parents want to pass on their wisdom and experience to their children. Similarly, children have a strong need to gain recognition from their parents. They want to be seen and perceived by parents. And they are born with the awareness and feeling that their parents will give them the greatest of all lessons: How not to betray yourself. This art is taught to children through the observation of parents and the absorption of their behavior, by watching parents deal with fear and temptation with courage and dignity.

First Way - Parents give us an example

For example, when a parent stands up for social justice at work or advocates a colleague, because that is the right thing to do and loses his job. A child cannot learn to behave properly only through words. He needs his courage to be handed over to him by his father and mother. Must to experience for yourself the courage and justice that spill over into his heart as living memories, and as liquid gold they find their way to his soul. Feelings and memories create what a child becomes in his next life - just like his righteous father, as well as his daring mother - they become its maximum habit. They become the habits of his heart and soul.

Justice and courage are real to him, not only in thoughts and words. They are the living psychic and mental energies that the child feels through his father as his copy. The father instills this child in order to maintain his inner faith, so that one remains an integral personality. He must live a courageous life for his father and for his future son. There is still an inner fear that she might betray herself. But he says he must not disappoint his father or his son.

Children who grow up without this deep guidance go through their lives with a certain type of emptiness and anger that tries to identify all the time. They know they have a feeling of incompleteness from childhood, but from what? Those who have loving parents often say, "I know my parents loved me, but ...". Others say they may not have been loved enough, or their parents didn't really understand them, but they know they're just looking for reasons - fishing for minnows, as my dad used to say. Those who have had a traumatic childhood are losing their abuse.

What they feel is incompleteness - even in cases of abuse, because they simply did not experience the ritual of transmitting wisdom from their parent soul to their own. They have never experienced the awakening experience when the parent's power connects with the child through a cosmic heart channel and tells him:

“You're part of something bigger than yourself. It depends on what you do and say. This world and I care about you. Live properly, because it's important. ”

The second way - I see an illustrative example of what I don't want

The second way one finds your maximus habitus is, if it happens witnessing something that starts his personal identification. Can you say: "I'll never be like that." For example, a young person witnesses violence or bullying on a weaker child. Nobody comes to help him because everyone is afraid of the aggressor. The weaker child shakes fear and the child - the observer, full of anger, shame and sadness promises: “I'll never be a tyrant. I will never treat a human being in such a terrible way. And I'll never let another person humiliate someone like that. " On the contrary, it may happen that a young person witnesses an act with which he immediately identifies himself. "I want to be one of those people, too."

I'm not talking about worshiping athletes or celebrities here. I'm talking about the experience of seeing someone who has the courage to tell the truth in spite of the harsh consequences, or to do the right thing, no matter how others advise not to do it. The young girl witnessed such an act despite the serious consequences, and described it to me as follows: "It almost broke my heart for her. But I couldn't help her. They put her in jail. I knew they would beat her there and maybe even die there. She did it so that the rest of us could live in a free country. I promised myself she wouldn't die unnecessarily. I promised myself that in my life I would try to prevent any human suffering. That's my way of life. " The path of this woman - her devotion to humanity - created her maximus habitus: Compassion for all human beings, nonviolence of words and thoughts, generosity of the soul.

The Third Way - Personal Experience

The third way in which one awakens his or her maximus habitus is personal participation. Direct personal participation is usually associated with something that lasts one afternoon or evening, perhaps with a school ball. But in this case I also have a much longer experience, like attending a certain lesson during the whole school year or a special friendship or relationship, something that was particularly difficult and therefore very shaping. For example, a year with an extraordinary teacher, summer with a grandparent or aunt is often referred to as magic time. Not only because of the loving relationship that has formed, but also because of the awakening that has taken place in it. One will remember this time for various reasons, because it meant to him "Life change".

Ask adults for their exceptional period, and what it was "life changing". Most often, they recall a conversation in which something happened or learn something that changed their lives. In my words, they were given the wisdom that caused them to awaken. One man told me that his parents had sent him to a summer camp as a school card for their school report at thirteen. That summer he saved the life of a boy drowning in the river. The boy searched him a few days later and said to him: "Wow, you saved my life. I think we have to live a special life now, because God sent you to save me. "

“I thought I was going crazy, but then I felt an incredible calm. That day the world seemed so beautiful to me. Then I promised to live a good life and that would be enough. "

Conclusion - advice

And what about you, do you know your habits? Try to take a piece of paper and a pencil and go through all 3 ways and intuitively write down whatever comes to mind for each habit, don't think. Only look at your notes later and try to expand them in your head (sometimes you may be surprised by what intuition says) and evaluate whether they make your life better or, on the contrary, hinder your development. It's always the right time to change…

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