Some couples (and even therapists) say that it is healthy to sometimes "fight" (of course not physically) with a partner, to have quarrels and quarrels.

Fighting with your partner is not fun. Wounded words can leave scars and cause permanent damage to the relationship. There are many couples who do not fight, fight, and yet look happy. So how to be in a relationship and do not fight together?

We asked dozens of happy couples who don't fight - how do they do it? What are their techniques? We divided them into three categories. Once you've discovered your favorite technique, you can say goodbye to the fight. The less time you spend in the fighting, the more it remains for more common moments and deeper feelings.

Red

Incidental misunderstandings and misunderstandings are normal in the relationship. The problem is if emotions can not be tame and the atmosphere becomes more and more strained. If two people are really angry, they can not listen. In such a scenario, empathy and understanding are impossible. How come out of this? Just say the 1 word: Red.

As we all know, at the junction the red symbolizes that we have to stop and wait. The same should happen in quarrel. It means that you will leave 5 for minutes and let everyone relax in it. After 5 minutes, you can go back and try to solve everything with much greater understanding for the other. What you will do during 5 minutes is up to you. You can be together and just stick to your hands, go for a walk, or just sit quietly.

After this time, you can be sure that the greatest anger should subside and you will talk more with respect and understanding. The first step is, of course, the mutual approval of this agreement. You can also choose a penalty for violating this agreement. For example, if you choose a fine, you can pay, for example, CZK 50 for each violation. As part of the investigation, everyone will consider whether to keep their anger under control. The word can of course be arbitrary for each pair - stop, end, pause, etc.

Responsibility

If your partner is irritated, you can have the urge to avoid him and let him be. But try to talk to him and understand the cause of his irritation. Is it possible that you contributed to his irritation? And what? By taking responsibility for the fact that your act could contribute to his irritation, you will show him that you are interested in his opinion. When everyone takes responsibility for how it has contributed to the problem or conflict, the fire will go out.

Embrace or position the spoon

We live at a time when the words we say will be of great importance. Yet words are one way of solving problems. Body proximity is another possible way.

It's a simple method - agree with that partner whenever it gets a lot of tense or heavy tension, one of you can ask for a moment for 3 minutes. A common moment should be full of physical proximity, such as hugging, or the location of the so-called spoon (the partners lie behind, fully pressed).

The result of this method is amazing. The main stress and tension drops, you connect to the partner's breath and together you will travel on one energy wavelength. After 3 minutes, you can return to the situation. This is a much better deal with quarrels and misunderstandings.

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These 3 methods can help to prevent partner fights. Sometimes it's hard to acknowledge your mistake, to admit that we could harm a partner, even if unknowingly, but it is worth it. Soon you will be surprised to find that you can enjoy a deaf and full-fledged relationship without fighting. And when the fighting is over, don't forget the final settlement… .because the other is worth it.